Gentlemen & his insecurity ( when men are not treated gently)

 

What happens when men are not treated gently unlike women?

Any ideas?

They suffer from anxiety and then they have insecurities. Men actually suffer from just as much insecurity as women and some of the issues are very similar. For men, however, these insecurities are not often talked about and the symptoms can manifest in different ways. Later on these insecurity leads to disturbed mental health and therefore can be dangerous. The biggest problem in men is that they won’t admit that they are going through  hard time or facing insecurity about things or themselves.

Also when we think about the term “insecurity” our mind tends to think about women like how women are insecure about their body, skin tone, appearance , weight, or ensuring equal rights on the other hand men they tend to get things easily so emotions like insecurity or jealousy why will they have it.

How wrong our mindset is we treat men’s mental health as if it’s nothing.

 

Why do men have insecurity?     

 

Before knowing answer to this question ask yourself why can’t they have this emotion?

There is no  difference In men and women. If women can have this emotion then so can men.

One of the big problems for men is actually admitting that they are insecure about anything.

This society gave all the powers to men but did not tell them that how to express emotions. They are always told not to cry our share what is happening inside them if you did you are not men.

The truth is that men worry about many of the same things women do. It usually includes:

·       Personal attractiveness and appeal

·       Success in their career

·       Financial success

·       Being a good partner

·       Being alone in life

·       Aging

·       Being a good parent

·       Being taken serious  

These issues are commen in men and women.

How to know that he is insecure.

 

Now this is hard and as well as simple task because its easy to understand that he is going through something but it is hard to make him confess that what he is feeling.

Its hard for men as well.

Let me tell you that how will you know that he is insecure or not.

·       He will be needy. Needy here refers to constant reassurance of love or respect. That he is worth of having good things and good people in life.

·       Your partner or any men in your life will start feeling anxiety if he is insecure  about anything.

·       He will start to lie or boast about things because by creating things on his own  he will feel satisfied  and this  way he will start to think that he will seem attractive to others.

·       You will notice change in his behaviour as he will start to be abusive and let me tell you abusive behaviour is not only physical but mental too. He will be manipulative at times.

 

How can you help him.

When you see these changes in your partner or in any men then you need to calm yourself in order to calm them.

·       You need to build trust and show love to him so that he feel safe to share his thoughts and issues with you.

·       No matter how much time it takes just be consistent.

·       Tell him that he is perfect in whatever way he is.

·       Communicate about your insecurities and tell him to share his if he is comfortable.

·       men are insecure about there body too. So tell them that they are unique and so are their body parts.

 

 

Dear gentlemen I know you have a lot of stress over your shoulder. I know you are going through a lot but don’t let your stress and insecurity rule over your mind. These are tiny thoughts that you need to overcome.

In case no one told you that you can cry when ever you feel like crying, you can share your thoughts to your close ones.

 Do not pass on these patriarchal  thoughts to any other men.

 

            You can be gentle and men at the same time.